What is ego? Is it a dirty word?
I experience ego as a beautifully displayed shopfront. Designed to lure me in. And once inside the shop I see things I like and things I don’t necessarily like. The intention of course is to have me stay and buy. That I will see more of what I do like than I don’t and I can be influenced to make a purchase and to come back again.
And then there’s the locked storeroom, the room we are not allowed to enter. A room that can only be accessed by a very select few, by those who have been given the key. We hide things we don't want to be seen in the storeroom.
The ego is designed to lure us in. We display what we believe will have people like us which feeds into one of the human needs - love and connection. The ego is also the guard, the gatekeeper that will protect that hidden room and who gains entrance. Another way to see the ego is a fierce protector of what precious jewels or hidden secrets lay beyond what the eye can see.
To drop the ego is to learn the art of vulnerability – the willingness to be seen. Not just presenting the good, but embracing all parts. The perceived good, bad, fears, humanness, flaws and brilliance – we humans are the full package! This is what makes us human. And yet for so many the idea of truly being seen represents such a threat to the ego, it will protect and defend at all costs.
My own account of ego in the drivers seat equates to hard work and effort. Keeping the shopfront perfect, when in actual fact it is not, is exhausting. It can seem relentless. It creates disconnection from deepening connections. It appears false, harsh and defensive. It creates distrust. It forms a barrier in authentic expression. It creates a block for deep learning and gained wisdom.
Ego is a prison that creates pain and tension in our lives. How can I be so sure, as this was my journey. If I wasn’t accepted then I wasn’t going to be loved, I wouldn’t be successful, and I didn’t belong. I would do all that I could to protect the truth from being seen, that I was in fact flawed.
To live a life of GREATNESS is to live as our true self, to be perfectly imperfect, to show who we truly are. Until we do we are pretty much living a lie.
So how do we breakup with unhealthy ego? Here are 7 tips.
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About the Author
Lara Wilson lives in Melbourne Australia. Her passion is to educate, inspire and empower you towards creating the life you love, in your GREATNESS. As a Warrior for Greatness, Lara shares insights as a speaker, writer, facilitator, trainer and change agent.